In episode 335, Michelle Boulé teaches us how to bring universal laws into our businesses and apply them to our processes so that we can boost our confidence in the decisions we want to make and reach our goals more easily.
We cover information about how you have an innate wisdom guiding you towards an ideal life, how to recognize patterns so you can experience more joy and freedom and how to transfer this energy to your business and success.
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Michelle Boulé is a Transformational Life and Business Coach, who helps compassionate business owners and creative entrepreneurs all over the world clarify and manifest their visions with more confidence, impact, and alignment towards their truth. She runs a multi-six figure coaching business, offering online group programs, private coaching, speaking, in-person retreats, and teaching. Her work draws from over 20 years of practice in somatic therapies, energy medicine, mindset psychology, spirituality, and her award-winning, international career in dance.
- Tap into your authenticity by getting comfortable in your own body.
- Movement helps us tap into our creativity and authenticity.
- You have an innate wisdom to guide you.
- Learn to be present with your body and be open to opportunities.
- Set an intention ahead of time. Be prepared mentally for avoiding shutting down, plan how you want to feel and help your nervous system look as you plan to behave.
- Law of polarity = if there is a problem, there is a solution.
- Law of perpetual transmutation: think in terms of solutions, not problems.
- The closer you come to a major shift in your mindset, the more resistance you’ll experience.
- Law of sacrifice: if you want to go to a higher level, you need release (i.e. sacrifice) something of a lower nature
- Law of cause and effect
- Law of vibration: Consciously decide what kind of vibration do you want to hold?
- It’s important to set boundaries so you can reach for what you want and go after it.
- Allow yourself to be worthy of something you want to go after and achieve.
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EBT 335 – Michelle Boule
Michelle Boule: Hi, this is Michelle Boule from Michelle Boule Coaching and you are listening to the Eat Blog Talk podcast.
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Megan Porta: Hello, food bloggers. Welcome to Eat Blog Talk, the podcast for food bloggers, looking for the value and confidence that will move the needle forward in their businesses. This episode is sponsored by RankIQ. I am your host, Megan Porta, and you are listening to episode number 335. Today I have Michelle Boule with me, and she’s going to talk to us about how to bring universal laws into your process and your business in order to reach your goals. Michelle Boule is a transformational life and business coach who helps compassionate business owners and creative entrepreneurs all over the world clarify and manifest their visions with more confidence, impact and alignment towards their truth. She runs a multi six-figure coaching business, offering online group programs, private coaching speaking, in-person retreats and teaching. Her work draws from over 20 years of practice in somatic therapies, energy medicine, mindset, psychology, spirituality, and her award-winning international career in dance. Hello, Michelle, thank you so much for joining me today. How are you?
Michelle Boule: I’m doing great, Megan. Thank you so much for having me.
Megan Porta: Okay. So I’m super excited to talk about all of your knowledge with universal laws, Michelle. I know you have a history of just being in dance, being involved in dance and moving your body and knowing how being comfortable in our bodies in order to express ourselves is really valuable. So I’d love to hear you talk a little bit about that.
Michelle Boule: Yeah, I’d be happy to. So I started dancing when I was five. Just to give a brief background of why I’m so passionate about this is because, first of all I’m a dancer first and foremost. I’ve also always been a teacher. I started teaching probably when I was 10. I’ve been teaching professionally for about 25 years. So much of what I’m interested in is helping people step into their fullest potential. So many of us, especially in Western culture, probably shouldn’t even say, just Western, we’re taught to suppress our expression. That shows up in our body. If you hang out with a bunch of little kids and you just see how free they are and over time, we learn to suppress that. So how does that affect a business owner? People are attracted to someone who is authentic. Because we know intrinsically that person is in total alignment with their fullest expression, which is life. We’re all attracted to more life in the same way that a plant wants to move towards the sun or wants to dig its roots into the ground to get nourishment. If a person can learn how to be more comfortable in the expression and the feeling and the experiencing through their body, which is something I help people do through my coaching and through movement practice, we tap into our authenticity. That, as one of my mentors used to say, nothing can compete with your authenticity.
Megan Porta: I love how you worded all of that. So what if somebody listening, myself included, just doesn’t think of themselves as maybe a dancer or someone who moves naturally. How do you recommend moving?
Michelle Boule: Okay. So first I wanna say that you’re always moving naturally, right now.
Megan Porta: Hey, good point.
Michelle Boule: Yeah. So I think we think there’s like this whole other place that we need to be. But one of the tenets of success also is to start where you are. So I’ve had people, and I had to get over this as a person who’s been mostly training professional dancers and been in that environment for such a long time, when I would have non dancers, start starting some years ago, come to just workshops where I teach a practice called moving with innate wisdom. This is what I do in my online monthly group. We do this practice twice a month. I definitely have a bunch of non dancers in there. You might just be doing something where you just are lying on your back and you shift into a different position. That opens up something in a big way. Or I had a guy who’s in Belgium, this past week, who said during our movement practice, which I just give language, like how does your body wanna move right now? What is it feeling? What if you just gave yourself a minute right now to just have no agenda, but to allow your body to move in the way that it wants to move. Maybe even as you’re listening to this, you might feel a different impulse. That is, that’s desire. That is again, that life expression that wants to express just any animal or plant that wants to grow into its fullest expression. So basically what I do is, in my practice called moving with innate wisdom, I say, you have an innate wisdom that is always guiding you to your highest potential, your fullest expression and your best health. Let’s for a moment now, just practice listening to what that is. I’ve had anything happen from people falling asleep, to running around making noise, to, I actually have a client who is a chef and in one of our practices, when the pandemic started, he went into his kitchen while we did our 20, 25 minute practice and started cooking.
Megan Porta: Oh, that’s funny.
Michelle Boule: I know. But in this very embodied way, he went on to create a very successful business that allows him to live exactly in the way that he wants and to bring his passion for food to so many people. I think that’s such a good example. I’m glad I said that because you don’t have to put on tights and a leotard and just start to move in a certain way. It’s always here the way you might play with your kids or be with friends and have a conversation. Or feeling an urge to have more fun or go dancing or whatever it is. Sometimes it’s just to allow your body to focus on one thing. To get still and to listen, that is also movement. So essentially what it is you’re learning how to be present with your body and everything that’s coming through it.
Megan Porta: I can understand what you’re saying. I guess I’ve never really thought this through before, but at some point in my childhood, I feel like probably everyone can relate to this too. You learn to be self-conscious about the way you’re looking and the way you’re sitting and standing. I remember being in church and oh my gosh, there are people behind me and they’re looking at me and I’m standing wrong. I was like, so self-conscious, and I still do that to some degree sometimes. We learn this. Then we have those experiences where our bodies are just in the moment, like you said. I notice that I’m like, oh my gosh, I wasn’t thinking about anything that I was doing. I was just letting my body do what it was wanting to do. That’s what you’re talking about.
Michelle Boule: It is. I love that you’re bringing up that example too, because I feel like we’ve all had that experience. You can see it if you have kids or you’re around them enough, that progression is totally free to then their eyeballs looking sideways and what will this person think? Every adult has this, and either we can become free of it or at least shorten the time when we’re thinking about it, and step into that creativity and fun and play in a different way, or we don’t. I think the other thing is sometimes people don’t even realize they’re doing it. It’s so programmed into them. But I think for someone who wants to grow, whether it’s to grow your business or improve your relationships or your health, we must become conscious of what we’re thinking and the patterns that are running to be able to change them. That’s when we start to evolve and create more joy and bring more success and abundance and meaningful experiences and relationships into our lives.
Megan Porta: Oh, that’s beautiful. So I have two boys and my oldest son really does not care what people think of him. I appreciate that. I’m envious of it. Oh, I wish I could be more like that. But my youngest son is the total opposite and he is always worried about what people think of him. I was like that as a kid, too. Can totally relate. But it makes me sad. Just be yourself. He’s got like this one little hair that popped out the other day and he went and cut it off because he thought people would see the hair. I was like, oh my gosh, I can’t believe you even saw that. You’re so cute. But yeah, he’s just so concerned about the way his body is moving and the way he’s looking and all of that. Yes, I wish we could hold onto that from when we were little kids. Now that we’re adults and we’ve learned these bad things about our bodies and the ways that people are perceiving them, we need to relearn it. Aside from getting coaching from someone like you, how do we even start to do that? You mentioned changing our thinking. .But what else do we do?
Michelle Boule: I think the first thing we need to do is just be aware of what’s happening. So we can’t change it unless we can see it because once we see it, we create a separation. We’re like, oh, look at this pattern. It’s not you. It’s a pattern that you learned. It’s a program that you learned. So let’s say you’re going out to dinner with friends and you’re super concerned about what to wear or what you’re going to eat. Here’s one thing that’s helpful. You set an intention beforehand. I am going to have fun today. I know that pattern of when I am getting nervous, am I gonna eat too much? I’m gonna spill food all over the place. Maybe if you’re with new people, right? Can I pick up something with my hands? Maybe you’re going to a fancy restaurant too. We can keep labeling in the story all the ways a person might get self-conscious. Beforehand, if you just say, how do I wanna feel during this experience, and you can sit for five minutes to 50 minutes. Honestly, I start my day with a meditation where I set an intention for how I want to feel today. I just practice it in my meditation. What is the feeling that I want? Because as you become more familiar with that feeling, what you’re actually doing is changing your nervous system to become more familiar with that. Our subconscious mind works through pattern recognition. So as you build that here at home right now, without anything having to change in your external environment, you can then go to that dinner and your subconscious mind will start to look more for experiences of joy, if that was your intention. Or experiences of freedom. Then you allow yourself to be in your body a different way or tell a joke when maybe you would’ve suppressed yourself. Maybe even tell a joke about yourself. When you’re in that freedom again. People love that. I have always thought, and I became really conscious of this in my twenties with teaching. Some of the most important work, if not the most important, is the work we do with ourselves. Because that teaches our kids, that teaches our friends, our audience, our clients, our students, our family, even our parents. I was always waiting for my parents to be a certain way, but I was like, wait a second. I started to change and heal things in me and my parents then started to change. So I think one thing that’s so cool is to realize that we’re actually more powerful than we think, and that the change can start right here at home. I’m pointing to my chest right now. This is where it starts. I think as we realize that more and more, we can create a very different reality for ourselves and the people we love.
Megan Porta: I was going to ask you a question, but you already answered it. So the freedom that you’re talking about from doing all of this, just letting our bodies be more natural equals in our business, more confidence, healing in certain ways that we need, teaching others, being an example to others and all of that stuff. I’m sure so many more things, but all of that leads to a better business, a more thriving business, a more powerful business, right?
Michelle Boule: Definitely. Because again you’re being your authentic self and there’s no one else like you. Again, I think we love that. I speak for myself, but I see other people loving it too. I see it a lot with kids. I remember I was at a school in Portland doing a tour for a program that I was in and this kid walked by us into the cafeteria and he was just swinging his arms wildly and just didn’t care. We all just smiled and just loved seeing that freedom. So it’s amazing how much we’ve all learned how to not do that. So we start resonating more with that than we do with freedom. But we feel the suffering from that too. If you can just start, like in the littlest way, what do I wanna feel today? What do I wanna create for my audience? Lean more and more into that. The teachers will come, the lessons will come. It’s not gonna be always pretty along the way. Because it’s gonna be very uncomfortable at times, but I think anyone who’s done a significant amount of growth in their lives or is going for it now, we’ve realized that the growth comes from the places that are often uncomfortable to begin with.
Megan Porta: Oh, my gosh. That was so beautiful. You were talking about the kid who’s swinging his arms every once in a while, I see an adult who is just super comfortable and it might look awkward or strange, but I envy it too. You know what I mean? I’m envious of their freedom in their body, but at the same time, I’m like, oh, they stand out because most adults don’t do whatever they’re doing. Do you know what I mean?
Michelle Boule: I do know what you mean? This is looking at the universal laws too, right? There’s one called the law of polarity. Your envy might feel uncomfortable on one, one end of the stick, but on the other end of the stick, that’s your desire saying I want that freedom too. So there’s a place where you can look at it as something that’s over there and not you and others. Then there’s a place where you can look at it. Or per a perspective from which you can look at it where you’re like, you know what, that’s a part of me. That made me smile. Maybe there’s something unique in me that wants to be expressed in a certain way that’s gonna make someone else smile. So it can be contagious.
Megan Porta: Yeah, that’s really cool. So what is the law of polarity? Can you define that?
Michelle Boule: Yeah, sure. So I’ll say this first. The universal laws are present everywhere. They’re intrinsic and how the universe works. They’re a part of every religion and actually science also. They speak exactly, you know what I said, how the universe runs. They’re non-changing. So when we can learn more about those also, and follow those, rather than some of the things we make up in our minds, we can also have a more joy-filled life because we start to see and think about the world differently, which means we experience it differently. So the law of polarity states that everything is created as a whole. There can’t be a half of anything. So one of the ways I really use this with my clients a lot. Is, if there’s a problem that you’re facing in your business or your life, there is always a solution. People can get so fixated on the problem, right? Let’s say someone’s looking for a job or an opportunity and it’s not coming and the money isn’t here. Their mind can just keep spinning on, but it didn’t work last time. Is it gonna work this time? I don’t believe it. But if you really live by that law, you’re in a problematic state, right? So that means there has to be a solution. So if you just turn your head over to the other direction and start focusing on, okay, the solution is here, what’s my next step? You will eventually find the solution. I can feel that energetically. If I’m focused on the problem, it’s not here.There’s also a law called the law of perpetual transmutation. Our thoughts determine what’s what happens with this energy that is constantly flowing through us. So if I’m in a problem, I will just create more problems. If I’m thinking of a solution, I’m programming my mind to start looking for that solution. To start vibrating with that energy of solution and low and behold it will show up. If I learn how to focus my mind in that direction.
Megan Porta: A lot of humans are in that problem focused space. It’s really rare to encounter somebody who’s in the solution focused arena. Don’t you think Michelle?
Michelle Boule: We could use the law of polarity here too, right? If that’s where you’ve been trained to look and I would agree too, we’re predominantly trained to live that way because it’s like survival, right? There’s actually a way our subconscious mind develops, which is, it’s everything we learn before seven it just goes and becomes an automatic program in our minds. Because let’s see how technical you want me to get with this? We don’t have a conscious mind until we’re seven. It doesn’t start to develop until then. So everything you learn from your parents, teachers, clergy. Whoever raised you, that just becomes your baseline for living, right? So it becomes the programs of your subconscious mind and your subconscious mind has two jobs. One is to keep you alive and the others to procreate. To keep you alive, it says don’t change anything. Don’t change these patterns, even if it’s a pattern of not having enough money or being in a relationship that isn’t very good for you. Those are just patterns and your subconscious mind can think, I’m alive. I’m not gonna change this. That’s why it can be so hard for people to change. So if a person decides, okay, I wanna have more money or I want to improve my relationship, they’re going to go into an unknown space. Patterns that the subconscious mind does not recognize. It’s gonna do everything to pull you back to stay where you are. I tell this to my clients all the time. The closer you get to your change, the louder the resistance is going to get just like the bars on a volume or a wifi signal. They just get taller and louder and you need to use your willpower. I would also say your surrender to say, you know what? I am more determined to live a life of joy or abundance than to stay in this familiar state of suffering. So this is a long, long roundabout way to answer your question. I do believe, for the most part, people stay in those same programs, their entire lives. But I also think if I could get really meta about it, we need to evolve to also save our planet, to save our relationships. To end the mindless destruction that happens. Again, we’re so powerful. If we start changing ourselves at home, even if it’s through the work of creating an amazing blog that people want to come to for happiness and inspiration and transformation, that is such a gift to the world. I would encourage anyone who has that kind of inspiration or taps into it, to find the people who can support you on that journey because you will face resistance. Communities, friends, coaches, mentors, healers, teachers. The world really does want to experience your unique gift. The only person who can bring it to life is you.
Megan Porta: You’re talking to a group of such creative, inspiring humans. As you were talking through all of your inspiring words, encouraging words, I was thinking everything that everyone listening is doing, matters. It all matters. It’s all making a difference in this world. It might seem like it’s not, but on a little scale in our basement, when we’re writing a blog post that’s affecting humans, it matters in a big way. So just keep doing what you’re doing, because you’re doing good.
Michelle Boule: Yeah. That’s beautiful. Just think if we could all say that to ourselves every single day. That’s where we would be redoing some of those negative programs, maybe an even better fun fact is that I think about 90 to 95% of our thoughts are repetitive. They’re the same thoughts we thought yesterday. 70% of those are negative and self sabotaging.
Megan Porta: Oh, my gosh, that makes me so sad.
Michelle Boule: Oh yeah. If we look at the law of polarity with that, the opportunity on the other side is so great. I had a yoga teacher say this to me a lot once, so it’s just your resistance and your struggle is equal to the amount of gold that’s on the other side. So again, what do we wanna focus on? Yes, it does. It’s a sad thought, but you know what? There’s so much potential in that for change and transformation.
Megan Porta: Oh, I love how you turn that around. Okay. So you know, a lot about a few other laws you were mentioning before we started recording. I wanna hear about those because I find the laws so fascinating, even more fascinating is how they can improve our lives and improve our businesses. So what other laws are you digging into recently?
Michelle Boule: Yeah. So one of my favorites also is the law of sacrifice. I studied these laws with my mentor and there are seven main ones. The law of sacrifice is a more subsidiary law. But what this one states is that in order to go to a higher level in something, you need to release something of a lower nature. So this is a fascinating one because again, our subconscious mind doesn’t want us to change anything. If you want to grow your blog or your reach, there is something you need to let go of now to be able to step into that next level. The fascinating thing is, as humans, we often look at what we’re losing rather than what we’re gaining. Because what we’re losing is known, right? Let me think of an example I’ve had with a client. A creative person I have been working with for a couple years, and there was just an opportunity she had in her work. She was so afraid to actually say, this is what I want. She was focusing on what if they think this and what if I lose this. Her mind was just looking at everything she could lose by stepping into a completely unknown space.
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Michelle Boule: So then, she did the thing, she talked to her bosses. She ended up getting a full-time offer for an incredible job. But it was focusing again on what she wanted rather than what she was losing. If she didn’t get her mind out of everything that she might potentially lose, she wouldn’t have been able to step into the unknown of what then came after that. So that’s one way. I think maybe an easier example to put to use for this is one with buying things, right? Because we can look at what money we’ll lose. Let’s say for something like investing in coaching. Someone could say, I’m gonna lose this much money and they’re looking at it in that way, but they’re not looking at how much they’re going to gain by learning these skills that they can apply for the rest of their lives. I had a mom as a client, I guess it was just last year and she did not have enough time in her life. Her kids were really needy, independent. One or both of them might have been on meds. She was just getting resentful because she’d try to stay in the car a little longer, avoid coming home from work so she could just have a little more time with herself. What we had to do was look at where she was or was not setting boundaries. We had to look at the conversation she was or was not having with her kids or her husband. These are all good things, she could have looked at, I’m gonna lose the way our family runs right now. It’s good. It isn’t exactly what I want, but it’s good enough. So here’s another law of cause and effect. We had to change what she was doing. That was creating the current effects in her life, which was not enough time, burnt out. Doesn’t feel like her kids are strong and independent. Relationship with my husband is good, but it could be better. So we looked at setting these boundaries and just her clarity around this is what I really want. This is who I am. After eight weeks, she was like, my kids are making their own breakfast. Now they’re helping with chores in the house, their laundry. Their confidence is building. I get to have time in the morning to myself. I started a kickball team. I got asked to be on this new committee at school. About seven or eight months later, she emailed me and she said, I just started a business flipping homes. I was like, you are a person who had no time before. You were just unhappy and stuck, but what she was doing, to go back to what we were talking about earlier, was suppressing a desire to be this force in her job, this person who can change the world a certain way. To have the social time that she wants. To have time away from her kids, which actually helped her kids become more independent and confident. So that’s cause and effect. That’s the law of sacrifice. That’s the law of polarity. All the laws actually operate at the same time. They’re intrinsic. They’re everywhere. The more you can learn to look at the world through that lens of how they function, the more you understand it. Understanding usually precedes experience and wisdom. So I’ll pause there because I feel like I just read an encyclopedia of information.
Megan Porta: It’s all so good. I love this. This is right at my alley. I love having conversations about this sort of thing. Because I feel like it gets overlooked that universal laws and everything we’re talking about here, can translate directly to your business and how your business is run. That’s why I include this sort of thing in the podcast, because it’s so important. A lot of business podcasts don’t cover stuff like this. People are missing out because every example you just talked through is so perfect. You have to sacrifice. You have to understand there’s a cause and effect. There’s the law of polarity. All of that is going to translate to better business if you get it.
Michelle Boule: Yeah, and it takes a while in practice. There’s a book called Working With the Law by a man named Raymond Holywell. I think it might be from the mid 1900s. From the time I was introduced to that book, to when I finally got, it was about three years. It was three years of pretty extensive study, so there’s a time and a place when it’s right for each person. The more I know about these laws, whether or not a person is talking about them, there’s so many incredible teachers out there. I think the really solid ones are living by the laws. Again, they may not say these are the universal laws, but you can see it in their teachings and how their lives unfold. I think if we remove that cap or that limit on how much joy we can experience and the only reason I can say this is because I’ve personally gone through it. The more we can remove that cap, the more we understand, oh wow, this is how the universe works. Again, we bring more joy to not only our own lives, but to anyone that interacts with us. Anyone who reads our blog, listens to the podcast or just finds you somehow. We’re so connected through social media. Here’s the other thing, too. Every action, every thought you have has an effect somewhere. I heard from a guy through social media in Lebanon, who’s never paid me a cent. He said, Michelle, your work has helped me so much. I’ve been able to raise my prices. I’ve been able to do more of what I love and help more people. It’s because I’m doing that for myself. What do I love? What do I want to express? In all honesty, continue to refine that, because it’s a journey. It never stops. There’s no destination where you’re like, oh, everything is great and peaceful. It’s just ongoing. It’s awareness. It’s not a destination, is one thing my mentor would say. And there couldn’t be more truth to that. I got triggered yesterday morning on this little vacation with my family, but it was so much shorter, the time period of being in that trigger than it would’ve been even a year ago, two years ago. I stepped outside. I did my little thing that I do to get outta the trigger. I was like, okay, I’m back. Rolling. Let’s do it. Let’s go have fun.
Megan Porta: Awesome. I love that. Isn’t that great when you see progress in yourself and how you deal with situations? I just had that the other day I was in a funk and I was like, okay, what am I not doing? Then I started going through my routine. Okay. I hadn’t taken my vitamins in a few days. I’m not drinking enough water. I haven’t exercised in a few days. So I just popped right back into all of that stuff that I know makes me feel good. I think two or three years ago, I wouldn’t have recognized that. I would’ve kept on going and I would’ve spiraled downwards. So I love when we can just see those things we need to be doing and we correct, course correct. We change and then things start getting better and it’s oh yes, I’m improving.
Michelle Boule: Yeah. Cause and effect.
Megan Porta: Yes, cause and effect. Then something you said earlier, I loved. Once it clicks, once you see how the universe works and you get a morsel of understanding, then I feel like this whole new world of magic opens up and then you are like, oh, okay. It’s almost like you’re in a cave. Then you see light and you get inspired and you have hope. So you keep moving forward and you keep seeing more awesome things. But yeah, there’s so much magic in that moment when you’re like, oh gosh, this is so magic.
Michelle Boule: Yeah. I think the thing that most people don’t realize is that if you’re experiencing that, it’s because you created it. We skip over that and I think we get this sort of Hollywood syndrome. All of a sudden this person has huge success, but we don’t see how many times they failed and fell on their face and did it quote unquote wrong. I wrote a blog post about this the other week. Just take one more step, just one more minute even, one more hour, one more day of staying in the vibration or the feeling that you want. That’s another law. The law of vibration. That we can create that now, here. What I was talking about in the beginning. You can intend to say, Okay, I want this dinner to be fantastic. So who am I going to be as I show up to this? You feel that now and you create that vibration. You’ll bring things into your sphere of energy that are resonant with that rather than negativity. That will just keep growing and growing. What you were saying earlier about creating stuff makes me think of, if anyone’s read, The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles I think that book is from 1910, so you’ll have to excuse the old language.
Megan Porta: I have read that. Yes.
Michelle Boule: I think it wasn’t until maybe like the second or third time that I read it, that I was like, oh, wow. But there’s that wonderful story where that person decides to manifest. I think it’s like a new furnace and a rug or something in his home.
Megan Porta: Oh my gosh. I was gonna say that wasn’t it a rug? Yes.
Michelle Boule: Yeah. So then he waits a second. If I could do that, why don’t I manifest an entirely new home? Then he goes ahead and does that, working with those laws. So I think it’s an interesting thing. Again, I can say this because I’ve had to learn it myself. We can create much more than we think we can. What if you allowed yourself to be worthy of that thing that you’ve been quietly or secretly dreaming of? Maybe someone said to you at some point when you were a kid that’s ridiculous. Who are you to have that? Or we don’t have enough money for that? Or you’re not smart enough for that, or pretty enough or whatnot. But you still have this secret dream inside of you. So our job as adults is to say, you know what, I’m worthy of this. I’m gonna live my life in full expectation of this, consistently. Not just for a day, not just for a week, but as an awareness for lifetime. Then we start to create things that previously we wouldn’t have imagined were possible. That’s quite a beautiful thing to see in my clients and also experience in my own life too.
Megan Porta: Oh, that is such a beautiful thing. So you touched on the law of vibration. I just wanna hear from your words exactly what that is.
Michelle Boule: That’s just that, that everything is frequency. Everything is vibrating at a certain level. So it’s just like a radio signal, right? Old school radio dial. You turn the dial and you resonate with the radio station, or a particular frequency. All those stations are in the air all the time, but you are tuning your dial to tune in to a particular station. When you’re in that station, all that information in that frequency comes in. So if we look at this in terms of, this intention. I’m gonna have a great dinner and you stay in that frequency, you stay in that vibration, everything that resonates with that vibration, that’ll be in your awareness. That will be in your experience. It’s the same way. If you play a note on a piano, let’s say you play a middle C, for anyone who knows a piano. I hope I’m explaining this right. A guitar that’s sitting across the room, that same note will resonate on the string. Or that same note on the piano resonates on everything that’s an octave above or below. Sorry if this is too technical for no one who understands music. I don’t know why this popped in my head. It’s like the dog starts to howl here and then the other dog hears it and it starts to howl over there. It’s like the same frequencies get picked up. So the more you can consciously decide, this is the vibration I want to hold, again, you will then see the effect of that. Cause and effect. The things on that vibration will come to you. So the other side of that, if you’re in a negative space and we’ve probably all seen this in ourselves or with a friend or a child or someone or partner, if they don’t get outta that space, like more and more negativity, story stacking will come in and it’s just that’s the thing that’s that person is focusing on, that’s the vibration. It will attract more of them. I’ll just say one more thing. If a person gets stuck in that place, I think one of the best things is not to expect yourself to jump like way onto the other side, but just okay, what’s one thing I can be grateful for now. What’s one thing right now in my life that’s so wonderful? I’m literally thinking of doing this exercise right now. I know on the other side of this door of the room that I’m in, my sisters and their kids and their partners are all over there and I love them. That’s it. Let’s say. I’m trying to solve something in my business. Oh my God. Where’s the money for this? Oh, focus negatively. Oh, wait a second. Right over there are some people I love. Oh, I know. Yesterday, what a fun day we all had swimming in the lake. I know we’re gonna have so many laughs today at lunch. Whatever that is and then all of a sudden, I’m not in the resonance of that problem anymore. I’m not in that vibration. Then I can go back and look at, okay, what needs to happen? Because I’m on a totally different frequency. I’m seeing different opportunities. My mind will create new thoughts or resonate with different thoughts that will allow something else to happen.
Megan Porta: I feel like gratitude can fix so many things and I kinda preach this a lot with my listeners. I feel like I get a little bit annoyed because I’m one of those super optimistic, annoyingly optimistic people, but it’s because I’ve seen the power of gratitude and exactly what you’re talking about with the law of vibration. I get in ruts too. We all do. We’re all human. We get into thinking about how terrible our traffic is and how Pinterest has deceived us. It is normal to do that, but I’ve also trained myself to catch it and stop it and just say, okay, wait a second. I’m gonna focus on all the good things, like you just said. Your sister and your kids and the memories from vacation. I do that now as a habit. It works. It’s so powerful.
Michelle Boule: Really does. There’s someone I study with and he says, gratitude is the best. That’s the first step of receivership. It allows us to receive. I think what this says to us is the universe is wanting to give us anything we want. If we go back to that science of getting rich stories, gratitude is what puts us in that vibration of being able to receive all those things that we are wishing for. The gratitude has to come first before it even shows up. That’s even like a native American, a way of praying. The chief would go into the field or wherever and with his bare feet, say thank you so much for the rain, his bare feet on the ground. Thank you so much for saturating this earth. So it wasn’t like, please bring this to me. It’ s here already. Let’s be grateful and allow it to come to us.
Megan Porta: Oh, I love that.
Michelle Boule: It’s like, why not? Why not even just for a month experiment with that and see what happens. What are you gonna lose by just being grateful?
Megan Porta: I agree. It’s so normal to get into our human ruts of just wanting and expressing want and maybe complaints and gripes and not to express gratitude. But if you can commit to it for a period of time, it’s guaranteed that your life is going to turn around. The way that you see the world is going to change. There’s so much power in gratitude. I love it. I try to tell my boys that all the time. They’re not quite there yet, but some day.
Michelle Boule: What’s also incredible. I’m just hearing this. So I wanna say it is to not shame yourself if you haven’t been doing this. As of today, I am 44 years old. There’s some stuff like I haven’t been grateful for yet. I just did meditation training with my dad and he’s in his later seventies. He said, oh man, I wish I would’ve known this when I was your age. It’s okay. There’s perfect timing for everything. What is cool is that the younger generations are getting this information sooner and that’s really beautiful. I guess the point I wanna make is, for a person to not feel bad about how they’ve lived their life so far, because all of that, it’s your gift. It makes you who you are now. It makes you who you are to become. It allows you to serve in a better way. So I also say gratitude and just forgive your past and let it go. Let yourself learn the lessons and move forward without carrying any of that.
Megan Porta: I love that too. I’m so glad you said that because your story is your story. It took me so long to understand things. We’re all work in progress, right? Like you just said, there are things you’re not yet grateful for that you need to be grateful for. Yeah. We’re all like that. But accepting our stories as they are, I think is so important too. Even talking about blogging journeys, like, why am I not getting there as fast as someone else? Because that’s your story, that’s your blogging story. That’s your journey for whatever reason. Just accepting that in any realm of your life, I think is so important and to not have regret or any of those bad feelings. Because that’s like the law of vibration too. So if you have those bad feelings, then that’s gonna bring your vibration down and then you’re at a lower place.
Michelle Boule: Yeah. You’ll probably be creating from that vibration. So you’ll create more of it. I think the thing that you said. We can use the law of polarity on that question you just said of, why am I not experiencing what this person is experiencing, right? That has a victim energy. That will be cause and effect. You’ll create more of those situations where you feel like you’re not empowered, but if we use the law of polarity in that situation as well, you could look at that same question. Why am I not experiencing this, in a more empowered way to say, okay, I know I’m creating this, so what do I need to shift? Why is the universe giving me this experience? What do I need to learn here to be able to shift something? Honestly, in my twenties, there was a moment where I was like, why is no one asking me to dance? I’m such a good dancer. I was working an office job. a very dear friend at that time was like, Michelle, what if you went in with a different attitude? Those weren’t his words, but that’s how I can translate it now. I went into the office and I was like, I am gonna have a good time filing these papers. I’m gonna have a good time ordering the boss’s lunch. Paying the bills. Then I didn’t go out and do a bunch of auditions and talk to a bunch of people. I got more dance jobs within a short number of months after that, than I could say yes to. Because I changed who I was being and what I was expecting and what I was bringing to the world. Again, guess what, like the world will deliver that back to you. I can’t even remember where I started with this, but you can’t change something right here at home and it not have an effect in the world, quote, unquote, outside of you.
Megan Porta: The thing I pulled out of there is just to be more curious instead of more judgemental. So instead of judging your experience, be curious about it oh, okay. Why isn’t this happening the same way as it’s happening for others and to take action or change. Maybe your attitude or your vibration.
Michelle Boule: Totally. Nicely said, thank you.
Megan Porta: Oh, this is so fun. I feel like I could talk to you all day. I love conversations like this. This is such a good way to start my day. Thank you so much for all of this, Michelle.
Michelle Boule: Thank you.
Megan Porta: Is there anything you want to leave us with? A final take away from everything we’ve talked about? What is the most important thing for food bloggers to hear along these lines?
Michelle Boule: What’s coming through me now is just be kind to yourself. I think we can be so hard on ourselves, especially people who are going for something big, especially people who are creating from scratch. What can you celebrate that has already happened today? Choose three things. What are three things that happened today or in your recent past that you can celebrate, and know that you created those things and just be kind, be kind to yourself, be gentle and allow that vibration of love be what ushers you to your next beautiful experience in your life.
Megan Porta: Oh, so beautifully said. I have so many quotes to pull out of this conversation, so thank you for that and for taking the time out. You’re on vacation.
Michelle Boule: I am!
Megan Porta: So thank you. Thank you for taking time out of your vacation for us. We really appreciate you.
Michelle Boule: My pleasure.
Megan Porta: Okay. So you’ve already shared a ton of inspiration, but I do ask my guests at the end of our chats every time, if they have an additional quote or words of inspiration to share.
Michelle Boule: The only thing that’s coming through now, have fun.
Megan Porta: Yes. Be kind and have fun. I love it. We’ll put together show notes for you, Michelle. So if anyone wants to go peek at those, you can go to eat logtalk.com/michelleboule, and it is spelled B O U L E. Tell everyone where they can find you online and social media, et cetera.
Michelle Boule: Yeah. So just go to Michelleboule.com and I’m sure you’ll see the spelling of that or link to that in the show notes. Instagram is the same thing. Michelle.boule and Facebook, Michelle Boule. Those are probably my most active platforms. I’m on LinkedIn too, but probably Instagram and Facebook, definitely most active. If you go to my website, There’s a free download there. It kind of rotates between two, but just scroll down a little bit and you can grab a free resource to help you really come into alignment with who you are and what you want to create in this world and to have some really tangible tools to do just that.
Megan Porta: Awesome. Thank you again, Michelle. And thank you for listening today, food bloggers. I will see you in the next episode.
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